Secrets of Men That Women Should Know

According to psychologists, if a man is ever caught on some “innocent” lies, trust to him will be exhausted. Where should a woman know that all this afoot for her peace of mind? However, men do not hesitate following the advice of scientists and disclosing their little secrets. Let’s try to figure out why.

Secret number 1: A neighbor is a really good looking woman

But that does not mean a man wants to leave you for her. They are simply arranged this way - even while happily in love, they will automatically look at all pretty women around. It’s like a radar, which cannot be turned off.

Secret number 2: Sometimes a phrase “I’m going to watch football” means “I want some rest from you”

Quite often a visit to football (basketball, tennis, hockey, drafts tournament) is just an excuse to rest from his beautiful half. Of course, no wise man will say: “Honey, I’m tired of you, and I want to spend time with friends.” So he has to portray a hot admirer of tennis or handball.

Secret number 3: Obligations of any kind deprive them of courage

A rare man starts reflecting on a wedding, drawing a plan of family nest and thinking about the color of curtains in the nursery since the first day of acquaintance. The overwhelming majority of male population will require months or even years to come to terms with an idea that beloved woman is actually waiting for a proposal.

Secret number 4: Gender equality is fine, but man should earn more

“Syndrome of provider” reached men in the legacy of distant ancestors, who killed mammoth in one fell, dragged it into cave over tail, proudly awarded it to their second half and disposed of in the rest - waiting for honestly earned dinner. Since that time a man is hunting for mammoth (ie making money), and a woman is cooking dinner (ie, earns less). When a woman tries to enter a traditionally male territory and pursue mammoths (ie, earn as much as her man, if not more), family relations are steadily spoiled.

Secret number 5: In fact, they like working at home

In fact, men like working at home - because of internal feeling of superiority: she will not stand without me. Why do they hide it from women? Probably because all immediate household chores are formed in the most inopportune time - for example, during a favorite football team’s match (how can they miss it?).

Secret number 6: Over the years, they love their second half increasingly

Men’s emotional growth occur gradually, and reaches its peak in 40-50 years - so, at least, psychologists say. And most men agree with them. Over the years, men discover some new, previously unknown sides of their partners’ natures, with age an internal reassessment takes place and men are beginning to appreciate the qualities they have not previously drawn attention to. But none of them will say to a woman: “Honey, I love you stronger every day (month, year)”. She may decide he loved her less before.

Secret number 7: Sometimes they do not understand what women are talking about

This is one of the worst men’s secrets - well, who of sound mind will recognize he did not understood a word of his wife’s flaming speech? They will simply say: “Yes, I understand, of course, you’re right”.

Secret number 8: They are afraid of women behind the wheel

When a woman sits behind the wheel, a man in the passenger seat internally becomes a frightened boy. This traditional men’s territory is not intended for women, and the one that dared to violate the border and allowed sitting at the helm, does not receive a great deal of trust. Of course, he will never recognize this. But if, at a speed of 30 km / h a man suddenly says something like: “Honey, I think we are going too fast”, there is no doubt - he is frightened to a pulp.

Secret number 9: All men secretly wish they were 25 once again

But they will never in admit it. This is a women’s tradition, so no man will develop this theme.  Although, of course, it would be better, if they were 25. Well, at least, 30.

Secret number 10: Give him freedom - and he will give you eternity

A woman, sincerely respecting man’s freedom (be himself, go to a football with friends, go on holiday alone), is much more likely to win his heart and eternity with him, than a woman constantly tracking his every step.

12 Simple Tips For Relationship Bliss

How do we make our relationship work?

One of the most common questions we hear is, "How do we make our relationship work?" The answers are complicated, varied, and, after a while, can start to sound like muddled platitudes. But these common place sayings get repeated because they work. With this in mind, we pulled together 12 cliches that, in fact, reveal simple, tried-and-true advice for having a healthy, happy relationship.

1. Mind your manners. "Please," "thank you" and "you're welcome," can go a long way in helping your partner remember that you respect and love him and don't take him for granted.

2. Variety is the spice of life. Studies have shown that dullness can lead to dissatisfaction with a relationship. Trying something new can be as simple as visiting an unfamiliar restaurant or as grand as a backpacking trip through Sri Lanka. Discoveries you make together will keep you feeling close.

3. The couple that plays together, stays together. Find a sport or hobby that you both love (no, watching TV does not count) and make that a priority in your relationship. Camping, biking, building model trains... whatever it is, find something you enjoy doing together.

4. Fight right. In order to have productive arguments, keep these rules in mind. Don't call your spouse names. When things get really tough, take a break from the argument. Let the other person finish his/her sentences. Don't initiate a discussion when you're angry

5. I'll scratch your back if you scratch mine. No one likes demands (unless you're in a BDSM role play), but everyone can appreciate a compromise. If you want your lover to do something and you're not sure he'll be agreeable, the quickest way to avoid a confrontation is to sweeten the deal. For example: "Sure, I'll watch Monday Night Football if you take me to see the next movie of my choice."

6. Two heads are better than one. Being in a relationship basically means you've made a merger; you've not only joined assets but inherited the other's problems as well. Rather than looking at his problems as merely his own, tackle them together. For example, if he's gaining weight, rather than pushing him to diet on his own, enroll in an exercise program together.

8. Sound it out. It other words: communicate! Talking out the tough subjects—money, religion, fidelity, raising kids—will not be the most fun you've had, but it'll be valuable

9. Laughter is the best medicine. Learn to laugh at yourself and at silly mistakes. If he throws your $300 cashmere sweater in the dryer, laughing it off is, in the long run, better than getting angry. It's is just a $300 cashmere sweater, not the end of the world.

10. Keep your eyes on the prize. Yes, he forgot your co-worker's name for the tenth time, but it probably doesn't mean he doesn't care about you. If you keep your perspective fixed on the goal—to be in a happy, functioning partnership—you're less likely to get tangled up in every minor annoyance. Remember, you both want the same thing.

11. Quitters never win. Find a ritual and keep it alive, no matter what. Whether it's always kissing each other good night, renewing wedding vows every year, sleeping in as late as you want once a month or committing to having sex once a week, pick something that makes you both feel good and stick to it, even when you're tempted to skip. 

12. When the going gets tough, the tough get going... to therapy. Studies show that couples who seek counseling during rocky periods are more successful in resolving their issues than those who don't. Whether its from a religious figure, counselor or mental health professional, getting an expert to help sort out strife is as wise as forgoing self-installation and hiring a plumber to put in a new sink.