By Thomas Christopher
Most couples of today have a hard time making their relationship work out. One killer problem is infidelity. It is important for women to have some ideas on how to prevent infidelity from happening.
Why are partners unfaithful? Among the many reasons is this: "they can't get no satisfaction, and they try," but they don't know how.
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The following are some tips for you on how to prevent infidelity from happening and maintain an intimate relationship:
1. Share and talk things out together -- You both come from different backgrounds. You cannot avoid differences of opinion. You cannot read each other's minds. If you just assume you know how each other feels, you will not be able to catch problems while they are small. Sharing dreams, ambitions, and principles in life is very important, because he is part of you and you are part of him. It is best started before marriage to avoid conflict. If you don't communicate frequently, you will begin to suspect each other's motives, and that will certainly lead to divorce.
Be gentle here. Although communication is vitally important, understand that it may make your man very uncomfortable. Men have problems talking about feelings. He was probably ridiculed while growing up for showing emotions. He may be more skilled at winning and losing than at negotiation. He may fear that a conflict MUST lead to a break up. You are probably more skilled at communication than he is, and being outclassed also intimidates him.
Also, be aware that men need precise communication. They mostly live in a world of concrete, physical reality. They are often oblivious to hint and nuance. Say precisely what you need them to hear. Just be careful it does not sound like an attack. Men defend against attacks.
2. Be open and honest -- Tell everything to your partner while you are dating, including your shortcomings and negative aspects. Do not be shy. Your partner will love and marry you for what he sees in you during your dating stage. During dating, you tend to hide your negatives, and intimacy develops even if you did not reveal everything about you. You cannot hide it forever. Remember, marriage is supposed to be a life-long relationship, but if entered under false expectations, it probably won't last.
3. Trust -- Trust is important. Trust grows along with intimacy. You cannot have sex and commitment without trust. Just keep the trust. Trust your partner without any signs of doubt. Expect your partner to trust you the same way.
4. Give time to your partner -- Time is more precious than money. Time is authentic: You can pretend to care; you cannot pretend to be there. Go on dates alone, without your kids. This enhances your communication level and solidifies your mutual trust. This is also a perfect time to get to know each other even better. Getting to know each other does not end when you get married. Not giving your partner your time is one common reason why men seek someone else.
5. Be flexible and adjust -- Conflicts of ideas and interest may come anytime. No marriage is perfect. You will need to adjust sometimes to what your partner wants. Your partner will also have to make some adjustments for you. The flexibility and adjustment should be mutual for a lasting relationship. You each must find out the other's most important needs and make sure they are addressed, if you don't want the other to seek to satisfy them elsewhere.
6. Laugh and play -- Share happy moments as you did while dating. Laugh together about simple things. Don't let responsibilities grind you down. We often fail to look at the beauty around us, because we see it every day. Too much ambition without appreciating and laughing and playing in your everyday life only trains you NOT to appreciate things, so you won't be able to appreciate your achievements when they come. A man may be swept away by a woman who brings him joy NOW.
7. Repeat the steps of intimacy -- Couples who repeatedly reinforce and recall the entire stages of dating and the happy progress of intimacy tend to stay together longer than those who do not. The stages of intimacy start with looking in each other's eyes, and precede through holding hands, embracing, and petting. It is really worthwhile to patiently wait and go along with the natural progression of intimacy in a relaxing way no matter how long it takes. A man typically gets his intimacy needs met through physical intimacy, so he especially benefits from a richer experience, whether he is aware of it or not.
8. Be a good woman -- Men are attracted to strong femininity. A man is deeply attracted to a "good woman" who exhibits feminine grace and strength. He will work hard to be worthy of her.
These tips will help you to prevent your husband from cheating and thereby to avoid the dissolution of your relationship.
Complicating the issue, males have evolved to be both promiscuous and committed to a relationship at the same time. For more infidelity help with men, as well as the complementary topic of "Why are men afraid of commitment?" visit http://TipsWhatMenWant.com/. Thomas Christopher is a Colorado public speaker.
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